Can’t You Just Wash it Off?
Dear Ms. Prim,
A while back, I received a bead necklace from my then boyfriend, David. It's really tacky and looks completely hideous with anything I wear. However, since he was my boyfriend, I lied and said I liked it. I even gritted my teeth and wore it on a few occasions so he wouldn't catch on to how much I hated it. Sometime later, we broke up, but here's the thing. It was a good, mutual break up, and we're still really good friends. That being the case, I still wear the damn thing from time to time when I'm with him and pretend I like it. I still can't bring myself to upset him by telling him how much I hate it. What should I do? Should I come clean with him or should I just keep wearing the damn thing forever?
-Jabberwock590
Dear Jabberwock,
Honey, almost anyone who's been in a romantic relationship has had to pretend to like gifts that they didn't like. Most people I know have had to do this at one point or another. Hell, even someone as up front as yours truly, has had to play the fake appreciation game with presents. However, something does put you apart, darling. You're the first person I've ever heard of who kept doing this after the relationship had ended.
You mentioned that you and your ex are still good friends. This is quite an accomplishment. Most break ups are hard with lots of conniption fits on both sides. Darling, if your friendship was able to survive a break up, I'm pretty darn sure it could survive a little honesty. I think you should tell him. If you two are as good friends as you say you are, this shouldn't make the littlest bit of difference.
On the other hand, sweetheart, if you really are so worried this will upset him, have you thought about simply "losing" the necklace. You could always throw the ugly little thing out with the trash and say that you lost it. If that doesn't work, you could also "accidentally" break the damn thing (Ooooh! Did I just say that???). You know, bead necklaces get caught on things all the time. The string breaks, and all those little beads fall all over the place into floor cracks, between the cushions, down the sewer grate... You get the idea. Honesty usually is the best policy, but there are times where a little white lie could save you from a lot of hassle. No matter what you decide to do, good luck.
Sincerely,
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