Clingy Boyfriend!

by Miss Prim | Published Online on February 01, 2011

Dear Ms. Prim.

I’m a gay man, and my boyfriend is becoming something of a problem. We’ve been together for 6 months (a long time I know), and he’s beginning to run my life out of possessiveness. He has me call him twice a day, he always wants to know where I am, and he always gets super jealous whenever I go out with my guy friends. It never ends with him. I was just wondering what advice you could give me about this. I’d really like him to get off my back about this.

-Dark Tower Roland

Dear Rolie,

Honey,

First, I want to say congratulations on keeping a relationship going for six whole months. Give it another six months, and you might be ready to move in together. That being said, I totally understand the problem you’re having with your man. He’s obviously insecure about your relationship. Darling, you need to find out what’s making him so insecure. Next time you get the chance, sit him down and have a nice talk with him. Find out what’s got him all worried and try to deal with it. In the meantime, there are a lot of other things you could do to put him at ease.

You need to show him how much you care about him, sweetie. Take him out to eat someplace fancy. Get him some nice wine and good food. Buy him a couple of (small but sincere) presents while you’re at it. Don’t do anything too big or too showy, though. Apart from the show of affection, remember to do the little things every day, sugar.

People like to know that they’re appreciated. The occasional “I love you” and “Thank you” can go a long way. Do little things for him around the house. Cook him something he likes when he doesn’t ask for it, let him decide what you two are going to do on your nights out, and clean his place from time to time. Let him know that you care about him and that he’s the only one for you. Also, keep in shape, honey. If you let your body go, it might make him think that you don’t care enough about him to stay pretty for him. All the little things that you do throughout your relationship are the best way to let him know that you still care about him.

As soon as your man knows that he’s the only guy for you, he should quit hounding you. Then again, if you do some of these things and he’s still a ball of jealousy, you may need to re-think things a little. Trust your gut! Till next time, honey.

Sincerely,

This article appeared in the February 2011 of ignite Magazine.