Dish, Dish, Dish! (...unless it’s a Dirty Dish!)
Dear Ms. Prim,
I have an issue with my boyfriend. We just moved in together, and wouldn’t you know it, I’m having a big issue with one of his domestic habits. He’s generally a clean person, but he does one messy thing. And it would be the one messy thing that is my ultimate pet peeve. He doesn’t wash his dishes
When I say he doesn’t wash his dishes, I mean he NEVER EVER WASHES HIS DISHES! Thank God, he occasionally has the decency to rinse them, but he’ll leave them in the sink until the apocalypse. They will never be washed as long as he draws breath. I’ve told him several times that I have a problem with this, but, so far, he’s failed to take the hint.
Generally, I aoid confrontation. Because of that, I’ve remained very civil and polite the times I’ve told him about the dish washing issue. However, I’m beginning to wonder if I should get harsher on him. You know, I’m wondering if I should threaten to move out or break up with him over this. That’s my question: Is it worth threatening to break up with someone over a single bad habit? Should I really get this harsh over dishes? Please help me.
-captainhammer501
Dear Cap,
Honey, when it comes to how much of a deal to make out of something like this, you’re the only one who can be the judge. However, my whole reason for being here is to give advice, so I do have more to say.
First of all, sweetie, if this is your only problem; I personally don’t think it’s worth threatening your relationship over. If I had a quality man, I’d gladly wash his dishes to keep him around. Of course, it’s not really a pet peeve of mine.
Also, there are other ways to lay down the law rather than threaten a break up. Too often, I see people threatening to break up over the smallest issues. An old trick my mama did on my daddy when I was growing up was to leave the dirty dishes in his shower as a "not so subtle" hint. It was a little childish, but it worked. Sweetheart, I’d look at all your options before threatening to end your relationship over something like this.
Darling, that brings me to my last point. I’ve never thought it was wise to end relationships over a single issue. In my not-so-old-not-old-enough age, I’ve learned that you really should look at everything you have with someone before you decide to say goodbye to them. Unless you’re lucky, honey, you can’t take it back when it’s over, so it’s something you should be real careful about.
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Miss Prim likes to think that the occasional pearl of wisdom falls from her mouth, but the only thing she's licensed to do is drive a car (and, honey, have you seen her driving?!).
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